TW | GRIEF | LOSS | WRITING TIPS

Writing Through Grief

A lot of people asked why I wrote Shattered Hearts. Why would I put my pain on the page for others to read? Here’s my brutally honest answer.

I’ll be blunt. Even though years had passed; my pain, my grief, and even my husband’s pain and grief still feels raw. We can be watching a random TV show and suddenly we get triggered. We could go from laughing about a scene to sitting at opposing ends of a couch reliving our pain as if it happened yesterday.

I’ve learnt that there is no time limit on grief. There is no expiration date.

Twenty-one years after we lost our daughter, I’m here to say there hasn’t been a day when we’ve awoken and realized that it doesn’t hurt anymore.

Grief isn’t like that.

The loss of a child is not like.

I’ve had to accept that grief is something that I needed to incorporate as part of my life, but not let it rule my life.

So, in a way, writing Shattered Hearts, was my way of telling the world, one reader at a time, it’s okay to grieve.

It’s okay to be sad.